Fulfil your dream.
Write your memoir
with our 8-week course
You’re probably wondering if this course is right for you, and I totally get it.
Maybe you’re even feeling a little guilty that you’re here, checking it out. We have so many priorities around us: family, kids, friends, career, life...
But there’s one priority we usually don’t give much time: tackling your dreams. Which in your case (I'm guessing because you're here, reading this) means writing that memoir.
Maybe there’s a voice in your head telling you it’s not worth it. There are so many more worthwhile things to do with your time, right?
But it is worth it.
It changes things in your heart.
It focuses your mind.
It clarifies your relationships.
Basically, writing your memoir has an effect on you that you can’t understand, and you can’t quantify until you’ve done it.
It’s more than just putting words on paper. And it's almost hard to explain how it works.
In the thinking, and the writing, and the emotional work, you’re able to put things behind you. You’re able to make peace with yourself in ways that you can’t, any other way.
I've done it too.
After the diagnosis of my son with a chronic condition that brought trauma to our family life for over five years, I felt like I was swirling. Things had improved, but I was still stuck in what I’d lived through.
I decided that writing my story was something I needed to do – for myself, and my own peace of mind.
And it was a catharsis.
It did help.
In remarkable ways.
Where there was mostly grief and crisis, now there was mostly peace and acceptance.
You have to tell it.
There’s no choice.
It’s just a matter of when.
Because writing a memoir is more than just sitting down with a pen and a notebook and hoping for the best.
Even if you’re a reasonable writer and prolific reader, there are still things you won’t know when it comes to actually getting together a memoir that other people are going to want to read.
It’s amazing how not knowing where – or how - to start can paralyze us.
I’ve been there too.
I’ve put things off for weeks, months and even decades because I haven’t known where to begin.
It’s all been too difficult.
But it doesn’t have to be like that for you. I’m here to hold your hand. I’m here to lead you through the process, step by step. I’m here to break it down for you.
Writing your memoir is possible.
More than that, writing your memoir is something you can do - when you’ve got the tools and the encouragement, and the support.
Sometimes I get requests from people who want to tell their stories, but they don’t feel able to do it themselves.
“Can you ghostwrite it for me?” they ask.
I say yes, but it makes me sad.
It’s your life.
It’s your voice.
It’s you, on the page.
And if you do the telling, you get the emotional and personal rewards that come from being part of the process.
You can write your memoir. And you can write a memoir that other people are going to want to read.
Because that’s the other reason we write, isn’t it? For other people.
When I wrote my memoir about the difficult years after my son’s diagnosis, more than anything, I wanted to let other parents know that they weren’t alone. If someone was going through the same thing, I wanted to bring hope – or, at least, understanding, and solidarity.
We share our stories for that wonderful human warmth of connection.
Our stories help us relate. They inspire us. They take us to new heights, and new depths, and new levels of courage.
If you want to tell your story to encourage other people, you can do it. That's what this course is for.
I’m not here to just help you get any old words on a page and be content with that. I’m here to help you create something that works.
I’m here to help you tell a story that sings.
Let me introduce myself. I'm Cecily Paterson, author, editor and writing coach. My memoir, Love Tears & Autism, won third place in the ACBOY Awards in 2012, and I've edited and coached numerous other writers through the process of writing their memoirs.
I work with my amazing colleague, Selena Hanet-Hutchins, an editor with years of experience with fiction, non-fiction and memoir.
Together we created and delivered our first 'Write Your Memoir' course back in 2015. Even though sitting in a room with people face to face was an amazing experience, we've brought the course online now, mostly so we can reach more people.
We love writers. We love stories. We love to help people write their own stories to share with the world. And we can't wait to help you bring your dream to fruition.
The Write Your Memoir course comes in three levels.
One of the most common dilemmas for writers starting out is what to include in their story, and how to structure it.
In three modules, which include short, easy-to-watch videos, worksheets and downloads (and a few bonuses), you'll learn the step by step approach to creating the perfect plan and a structure for your memoir.
You'll finish this level with three possible structures you could use, and a detailed chapter plan.
After you've completed Level 1, move up to Level 2 where you'll find five 'Write Your Memoir' modules, consisting of videos, worksheets and downloads.
You'll learn how to keep tension in your writing, how to write a scene that works, tricks and tips for dialogue, and easy ways to fix common problems.
Plus there are more bonuses, including a resources list for how to publish.
You get all the content from Levels 1 and 2, but if you think your writing needs that extra boost, you can sign up for five hours of personalised coaching, feedback and/or editing from Cecily or Selena.
There's nothing like a pair of professional eyes on your writing. We're here to help.
The course is excellent. Warm, friendly, to the point. My plan is now much clearer, more confident.
The course helped break a large rather scary writing project down into understandable and manageable tasks.
I now have an outline for a memoir so that I can move on to actually writing down my experiences.
How to keep going when writing is hard or boring
Assess your writing and make it better
Five hours of Skype or email consultation with course instructors. (The five hours includes their reading time).
- Lifetime access to the course modules.
- Regular 'checking in' through our 'quiz' feature. (Don't worry. It's not really a test, or even a quiz. Instead it will help you evaluate how you're feeling, what you're thinking, and where you're at with the process of writing. It's all designed to support you.)
-A bonus that includes resources, tips and ideas on what comes next with publishing.
...to be part of the exclusive Red Lounge for Writers Memoir Group on Facebook. We talk writing, structure, memoirs. We ask questions, share ideas, and we have each other's backs. Course instructors Cecily and Selena will drop in and out of the group. There will be semi-regular live Q&A sessions as well where you get to ask your burning questions.
If within two weeks of receiving your last lesson in the last module, you really think this course just isn't for you, or you're not any better equipped to write your memoir, we'll refund your money.
I know now what I need to do to produce my first draft. Now I will start putting together the pieces I've written into the timeline and then start writing the bits I need to elaborate on.
I liked it. It was really helpful to have very directed exercises. I especially liked having three options for getting the information - videos, audio and transcript.
I'm feeling way more positive and excited than before. This was just what I needed. I've been meaning to write more for my memoir for years, but felt overwhelmed by it.
This is an easy reason to not do things. Yes, life is super busy, what with the job, and the chores, and the driving, and the feeding the cat, and the watching TV, and the being nice to our family. But in the end it can be used as a bit of an excuse, amirite? We all make time to do the things we really want to do.
If you really want to write your memoir, and you're not just saying it (because hundreds of thousands of people say it every day, believe me, and I know because I've met a lot of them) you're going to have to carve out the time from your daily life.
Sorry to be blunt.
It's not going to happen that one day you wake up and say, 'Hey, I've suddenly got time to write my memoir.' Nope. You're going to have to find that time. Create it. Jealously guard it with everything you have to get your dream done.
Where does your time go? Maybe you're like me and you play a lot of Boggle on your phone? (True confessions...) Look at your life. Are there things you could do more quickly, or not do at all?
We're all too busy. But the ones who succeed in following their dreams are the ones who've looked for, and found the time, and used it well.
Honestly, hardly anyone does. Why would they? It's not as if 'writing your memoir' is something you learn at school.
But that's why this course exists. That's why we have a whole Level devoted to planning and structuring your story. That's why our modules are immensely practical, with writing exercises, and worksheets and video lessons that give you the exact steps you need so that you can get started.
See above. And think about JK Rowling, who wrote her best selling first novel in a coffee shop while her baby slept in the pram.
Yep. Another common dilemma for first time writers. But fear not! We've got that sorted for you. We have very clear directions and guidance on what to put in. We help you sort out what's important and what's not.
Don't laugh. It's a real concern for a lot of people. And even if she doesn't sue you, will she look disapprovingly at you for the rest of your life, or refuse to take your calls? Maybe, or maybe not.
It's true, sometimes your story is too difficult, or will cause too many ructions if you share it with anyone else. But sometimes those stories are the ones you should tell anyway. Even if it's just for yourself, to give yourself some closure and peace.
Anyway, we have some practical tips on how to manage ruffled feelings and potential minefields in our bonus modules.
I think the relevant point here is that fear is real. Fear of putting yourself out there. Fear of re-discovering something you might have wanted to leave dormant. Fear of embarking on a big project, with no guarantee as to if you'll succeed.
'What if no one wants to read it' isn't the issue.
The issue is: are you going to be beholden to your fear for the rest of your life?
Fear can imprison us and keep us small and silent. It's when we choose to stand up to our fears and do the thing we want to do anyway - that's when we find out who we are and what we're really made of.
Anyway, fears seem to magically subside when we have support around us. And this course is built to be supportive and respectful. You'll find the instructor is a kind hand-holder, and the Facebook group is supportive and smart.
Put 'I'm scared' in the waste-basket. It's not needed as you embark on your writing journey.
I'm well acquainted with emotional stories. They do bring up stuff that sometimes we wish we could bury away forever. When you write, you feel. You can't help it.
But let me say this: all the evidence, and all the experts say that feeling that hard stuff, and revisiting it, and writing about it, in a supportive environment, is good for us.
Yes, it might be hard to feel sad or depressed, or horrified, or abandoned all over again, but in doing it, especially when you have support, you give yourself power to move forward in ways you wouldn't otherwise.
At the Red Lounge for Writers, we're not naïve enough to think that writing your story is all fun and games and easy emotions.
We know the profound effect writing can have on your psyche. But we're here to help you take care of yourself as you do the work, and make your mark.
Like everything, this course isn't for everyone.
If you don't want to make the time for it, or commit to the process, it's probably best you use your energy in another area of life. (Also, who wants to have another half-started-never-finished project hanging around, weighing down their life? Not me, and, I'll bet, not you either.)
If you're feeling 'ho-hum' about it, like you don't care that much, you should probably go find and follow your actual passion. (We all do better when we have that fire in our bellies.)
If you've only just emerged out of the events you want to write about, you might want to take some 'settling' time before you embark on getting it down on paper. Take some time to process it and really think about it, so you have a good grip on what you're writing. And then come back next year and do this course..
If you know 'it's time' to write, if you've had a burning passion or an itch you just can't get rid of, to put your story into a book, you are the person for this course.
If you're realistic about the task ahead, and you know it'll probably be bigger (and a little bit harder) than you expect, but you're willing to go ahead anyway, you're the person for this course.
If you love to learn, and you want support in your learning, you're the person for this course.
You'll find plenty of courses out there that will break your bank. You'll also find plenty that are just too cheap to be able to deliver what they promise. We've tried to give you just what you'll need to achieve a great result, while still keeping the costs within reach. To make it even more affordable, we've added pay-by-the-month options.
Three Modules Plus Bonuses
or 4 monthly payments of $34
All Modules plus Bonuses from Structure Your Memoir
Five additional Modules plus Bonuses
or 7 monthly payments of $40
* Purchasing the 'Write Your Memoir' section of the course separately at the end of 'Structure Your Memoir' is $160. By bundling both sections together, you save $20.
Three Modules plus Bonuses from Structure Your Memoir
Five Modules plus Bonuses from Write Your Memoir
Five hours of Personalised Coaching
or 9 monthly payments of $65
* Purchasing the 'Work With Us' section of the course separately at the end of 'Write Your Memoir' is $340. By bundling all three sections together, you save $60.
The lessons are online. Generally they consist of a short, easy-to-watch video explaining the topic and the practical work, downloads that relate to the content, worksheets and questions for you to fill in (online, using your keyboard, or on paper if you prefer).
Once you sign up and the course begins, lessons will be opened up to you on a schedule that we've designed. This is called 'dripping the content' and the reason we choose to do it this way is this: we don't want you to open the course and see EVERYTHING there all waiting and looking terrifying, and have you get overwhelmed and quit.
Of course we think it's better if you can keep up with the lessons, but we quite understand that life is life, and things come up. Also, we all work at a different pace. What's slow for you might be zooming for me.
Basically, though, don't worry. You have life time access to the material, and if you need to keep on at your own pace, that's just fine.
Again, we get it. Life is life, and things do change. But see above: you have life time access to the lessons and the material, and you can come back to it at any time.
Most of the modules have a few lessons in them. It would be best to put aside a full hour for each lesson, to watch the video, do the thinking, and then some writing, all in one hit. Of course, if you can't find a complete hour on that day, you could watch or listen to the video in 15 minutes, use another 15 minutes to think about your responses, and write for 30 minutes at some other time.
First, don't panic. We've set up the course to be step by step. So by the time you've completed Level 1, you should have a good, useable structure and plan for your memoir. From there, we'll take you through the skills you'll need to write it.
However, if you get through all the videos and show that you've at least made an attempt at the practical work and the writing, and you still feel you can't do it at all, we'll refund your money if you apply for it within two weeks of the last lesson being released.
You'll get a few options for how you'd like to use your five hours of consultation when you sign up for Level 3. They'll include Skype conferencing, email advice, or editing of your manuscript. We want to do what would help you the most, so you'll get choices. We'll contact you when you sign up for the course and work with you to find the best way to proceed.
The course? If you get through it at the rate the lessons are released, it'll take 12 weeks. If you take longer to do the practical work and watch the videos, the ball's in your court. As for how long you'll take to write your memoir... that entirely depends on you. It might be a project of weeks, if you're fast, and energetic and dedicated. It might be months, if you're a normal-ish person. It might be years, if you find it hard to get moving.
We're all a little tech-challenged, let's be honest. But as to it being too hard from a tech point of view? I really hope not. If you can use a computer to a basic sort of level (click here, scroll there, change tabs, login in that box - basically, like my Nan) you should be okay. And you can always send me an email if you're having trouble with it.
I wouldn't dare begin to advise you on how to approach the topic of finances with your important people, heh heh. But I would say this: what's your dream worth to you? We're here to teach you exactly what to do to fulfil your dream, and how to do it, and we'll hold your (virtual) hand all the way.
Yes, it's true. You could go get some 'Write your Memoir' books out of the library, and figure things out by yourself without paying any money, but be realistic. Are you actually going to write that memoir on your own? Or will it end up as one of those things you always wanted to do, but never got around to?
This is a cost, yes. But it's also an investment. In yourself and your dreams. Are you ready to take action?